Divorce in America: What's Love Got to Do with It

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Relationships are all about give and take, and to maintain them people must be willing to do the work. Today dissolution of marriage is being used as the easy way out when couples can no longer agree on simple day to day issues, let alone major life decisions. Although people tend to think carefully before they get married the rate of divorce continuously rises nowadays. There are a wide variety of reasons why people get divorced and I will highlight a few of these in this paper.

Divorce in America: What’s love got to do with it?
INTRODUCTION
Divorce is any formal separation according to established custom, or a total disunion. There seems to be a growing trend in society today that when the going gets tough, get divorced. In order to see the effects of divorce in the United States, we have to take a closer look at what causes couples to make the decision to end their union and file for divorce. According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, there were 2,096,000 marriages in the US in 2010 and of those marriages 3.6% per 1,000 population ended in divorce (FASTSTATS, 2013). Those numbers sound scary to many couples considering marriage or who have just tied the knot; however, it is important to realize random forces don’t simply cause nearly half of all marriages to fail. Rather, couples divorce for very specific and common reasons, and not always the reasons you might think. Below are 8 of the most common reasons for divorce as listed by Octane.com (Cobus, 2012).
Proper financial planning and management is essential to the success of a marriage. Arguments over money and how to manage it is the leading cause in divorce in the United States (Cobus, 2012). It is easy to overlook the financial aspect of marriage when in the “dating stage” of your relationship. It does not seem important how much someone makes, their responsibility with…...

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