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Parent–Child Relationships As a child, my father and I didn’t have a good relationship. I’d hardly get to see him due to him working all the time. Whenever I did get to see him he would be so tired he’d easily get irritated and usually scold me. But as I got older we spent more time together and we got to learn more about each other. I learned that we had many things in common. We both liked soccer and working on cars. I realized that what made our relationship work was spending time together and getting to know each other better. Of course not every parent-child relationship is great, some have bigger faults than mine did. But there are also those which have flourished into really meaningful relationships. In the book The Bedford Reader there are many short stories about all types of parent-child relationships, some good ones and some bad ones. In “Arm Wrestling with My Father” by Brad Manning, Manning remembers always trying to beat his father at everything as a child. Be it correcting his verbal mistakes or beating him in a physical competition. Until he lost that competitive drive and realized that all he had with his father was a physical relationship. He realized that they never spent time together without it turning into some competition. He realized that his father never showed any fatherly love. His father always provided for them, kept a roof over their heads, and kept them safe. That is how his father said “I love you” to his family. The one time his father showed any affection was when Manning beat his father in an arm wrestling competition. It was then that his father realized that his son was grown up and could provide for himself. His father then did something he had never done before; he gave his son a great, big, long hug. It was his way of saying ‘I love you’ to his son. What kept this relationship from being great for so long was lack of…...

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